Here's a step-by-step guide to getting married, second time over!

 Step one: Forget about romantic love. That’s probably what led you astray in the first place. As a divorcée, you’re older and wiser than you were when you married the first time. Don’t let romantic fantasies rule. A busy sex life is enviable, but it won’t pay the mortgage and can be developed later.

Step two: If you have children or family members you need to take care of, a job that requires long hours or out-oftown travel, or pets you love like siblings, consider these factors when choosing a husband. Unlike your first husband, your second husband has to fit into your life around these other elements.

Step three: Think about what you’re willing to give. You had a chance to test-drive this theory in the first marriage. Now, be honest with yourself about how much you can comfortably do for your second husband. If you work long hours, a man who can’t cook may not be the right match for you.

Step four: Look for independence. You learned a lot about yourself in the first marriage. Trying to keep it together and then watching it fall apart despite your efforts caused you to grow up and see the world differently. Look for a second husband who has learned some lessons, too. You need a man who can take care of himself.

Step five: Break the cycle. Your first husband was your Prince Charming, until you discovered his flaws. Choose the one trait of his that you disliked the most and be sure your second husband doesn’t have that characteristic.

Step six Expect imperfection. Everyone has baggage. When choosing a second husband, look for someone whose flaws you can live with.

Step seven: Take your time. Instead of rushing into a second marriage and finding you’ve made the same mistakes, take time to consider your options. Remaining single and continuing to look for the right second husband is always an option. You never know whom you will meet next.