Adoption is a concept that evokes different emotions. Nobody knows its origin, yet instances of adoption can be traced to mythology. After Hours attempts to demystify the relationship between the adopted child and its adoptive parents.

There are about 62,00,000 adopted children all around the world. In India itself several celebrities have adopted a child, like actor Sushmita Sen and choreographer Sandip Soparrkar.

There are many reasons for this increasing number children placed for adoption. In many countries unwed motherhood is unacceptable and scandalous, in some other cultures parents abandon their babies of unfavorable gender or due to financial and societal pressure.

One major reason for adopting is that when couples are naturally childless. Single people and a same-sex couple often adopt to have a baby of their own.

The right way

One of the hurdles that first meets parents who wish to adopt a baby is the lack of knowledge of the Adoption Act and the places from where they can adopt a baby. The jurisdiction to become adoptive parents varies from one country to another. The potential adoptive parent will generally be assessed for suitability through interviews, financial, medical and criminal checks.

The Adoption Act encourages the adoptive parents to adopt the children of the same race.

Things to keep in mind Studies prove that certain factors hamper the relationship with an adopted child and parents. When a grown up child realises that he/she is adopted, it might lead to trauma.

Adoptive parents are also sometimes emotionally shattered when their kids’ express their desire to reunite with their biological parents. Latika Sahni, advertising student was devastated when she came to know that she was adopted by her parents when she was just a year old. But she now wants to look for her biological parents.

Once the adoptive parents and children enter their new lives, they must learn to regard each other as their own children and parents. Psychologist Meeta Jena strongly suggests that the adoptive parents must tell their children the truth about their adoption.

“They should break the news in such a way that their children understands are not hurt. This must be done at an age, which is not too early at the same time, not too late.” Parents must celebrate birthdays of their adopted children, say experts.

The relationship between the adopted children and their parents are strained by the appearance of the biological children. Children will often feel insecure or neglected at this time The solution to these troubles is an open talk. Parents must explain to their adopted children that the newborn baby is their brother or sister and there is no difference between them.

Parents who have adopted children must realise that their relationship is the most special addition to their lives.